Seems lately I’ve heard a lot of talk about Sex Magic in social media and in the Tantric community. There are courses and classes and books and blogs all about Sex Magic. Well, I know a little something about mixing powerful intentions with orgasmic pleasure and having the results manifest a life I love! The practice of sex magic that I am speaking of is using your own body’s organic energy of sexual arousal or actual orgasm with visualization to fuel a deep desire or intention. There is nothing complicated or confusing about it at all. I want to share what I have experienced about Sex Magic with you.
In the fall of 2009 I moved to Arizona. Upon arrival, my then husband, and I separated. Really, the day we arrived we separated. It was a confusing and painful time for me. I knew my marriage was over and yet I had all the trappings of a twenty year relationship. Of course there was all that public opinion, romance novel, and bad B movie input that informed me of how I was supposed to feel about being “dumped and left.” You know, anger, grief, resentment, regret, indignation, all the awful stuff that is expected and worthy of sympathy from the masses. I was feeling very little joy and very fat. UGH!
Being a student and teacher of Tantra, I knew that I had to move those dark emotions out of my body. I also knew I had to move them quickly. I had no time to have a pity party or climb back under the covers for weeks or months. I had to create an income in a new city and I had to get my body into a healthy condition. I had to find the real Me after years of denial and excuses for bad choices and behaviors! What I needed had to be truly magical!
Sex Magic with Emotional Release & Intention
So I chose the simplest practice that I knew to calm my nervous system and get clear in my thinking and feeling, Emotional Release. I started to do Emotional Release every day for about a week. It felt good to cry and yell and say all the words that had been locked up in my throat and belly. I knew I was on the right track and eventually things would be okay. Then one evening as I started a sweet self-pleasuring time with myself, I wasn’t even thinking about doing emotional release. I was surprised that an angry sob escaped my throat. I stopped moving my glass wand (my preferred pleasure toy) and pressed in with a little more pressure against my g-spot (also referred to as sacred spot). Sure enough more sobs came up immediately. I stayed with the pressure deep inside my body and let the tears flow. I kept breathing and sobbing for what seemed like a long time (really only ten minutes). Then as the tears subsided and my breathing became deeper, surprise! I started to feel the tingly beginnings of pleasure. A thought came to me in that moment “I really want to move fast through this pain and grief!” What I knew for sure was if I was to have a true intention with positive results, I would have to say all that in the affirmative. So I changed my intention to “I want freedom, joy, and ease in my body” Yes, that was it, that felt right and I went deeper into my self-pleasuring. My sexual energy was building and just as I was edging into my orgasm I flashed on my thought again “I want freedom, joy, and ease in my body” and then again once more as my ecstasy overtook me, that powerful intention of “freedom, joy, and ease” rode the creative sexual energy of my orgasm.
That is how I found the power of Sex Magic for my personal transformation and fast crossing from sad angry victim to powerful “in charge” woman! In three short months I was unrecognizable to myself and others. Almost immediately I was happy, fun to be with, motivated, and in action so much that I lost 53 lbs. and began building my business.
Today I continue to use this practice of Sex Magic for manifesting my deepest desire and intentions.
Sometimes I focus on a material goal, something physical I want to have. Other times I focus on a ways of being that I want to cultivate and experience in my life, more joy, deeper intimacy with others, and to be more organized in projects. I’m certain I can have whatever I want in all areas of my life – mental, physical, emotional, and relational with freedom, joy, and ease! I found that it doesn’t have to be hard or difficult to get what I desire. I am manifesting a limitless, joyful, abundant life!
Recipe for Sex Magic
My personal recipe for Sex Magic was my glass G-spot wand, emotional release, intention, self-pleasure to orgasm five out of seven days per week.
Here’s a recipe for you:
As you are preparing to self-pleasure, take a moment to focus on what you want. Say it to yourself clearly in one sentence, in the affirmative. Begin to self-pleasure, when you get to that upward feeling towards your orgasm, say your intention again to yourself, and just as you arrive at the 3 or 4 strokes before going over, think or say your intention. Continue to say it during your orgasmic release! Then relax and catch your breath! Know that you did it right!
As I sign off today, I suggest to you what Laurie Handlers always says “that as many times a day as you brush your teeth… have that many orgasms each day!” And I add if you are having orgasms anyway… attach a powerful intention for freedom, joy, and ease in your life! Remember Sex Magic is pleasurable and fun and you deserve it!
The question: Changes to Butterfly Workshops Blog – What Changes?
Ahhhhhhhh…blogging! The Butterfly Workshops Blog and what to blog about – that is the question! What should the changes be to enhance and increase readership of Butterfly Workshops Blog? Changes to Butterfly Workshops Blog are coming soon!
So, I took this course on blogging recently. Well, it was on blogging and everything else that’s growing and changing on the internet. What a fabulous course it was and intense, so intense. I must say that I learned far more than I ever expected. I am grateful to Small Business Success Summit 2012 for offering such a quality webinar.
Content means everything in the changes at Butterfly Workshops Blog!
I learned that content is everything and that changes are necessary to Butterfly Workshops Blog.
I realize that I have plenty to write to you about. I just have to do it! Actually I have so much that I don’t know where to start. Ever experienced this problem? This is not a bad problem to have. It’s the problem of abundance. Right! No problem at all! Just start writing! And so I am telling you about it, disclosing my plan.
Ask YOU about changes to Butterfly Workshops Blog
The best way to discover the content you want to hear about and learn from for changes to Butterfly Workshops Blog is to ask you! And that’s exactly what I am going to do. I am sending a newsletter this week with a link to a short survey (I mean 3 minutes or less). I want to hear from you as to what you want on all fronts. What do you desire to learn? How do you prefer to learn? A few simple and basic questions! Here’s a link to take the survey in case you happen not to receive the newsletter.
Then I will go to work about creating wonderful content, new wonderful content, just like the content that has already been offered by Butterfly Workshops – the best! The content we’re known for is clean and crisp, demystified and no-nonsense. It is delivered with integrity, ethics and a concern for participants comfort and safety. Butterfly Workshops had been offering courses since 1999 inside my vision of being the change I want to see in the world and my very high standards and attention to every detail. I am proud of this fact and this is not going to change!
Here’s a really a video testimonial from Rosy, a student and fan of Butterfly Workshops who talks about the quality of what she received from her training.
So, new blog content (and even new course material) are on their way!
Oh and there will be guest bloggers too! Maybe you could be a guest blogger!
Hope you enjoy the changes to Butterfly Workshops Blog coming soon! I am so excited!
Great news! I am offering a FREE video gift to you for the holidays. This video gives you the distinctions from my Initiation – Mastery of Self Love Vacation Spa Course. If you haven’t done this course, the video will be your sneak preview into the “brain-candy” portion. If, you have, it will serve as a valuable review. Of course, it won’t be the experience or the sensations, but having the distinctions is a bonus, a gift, a great place to start.
More Self Love: Sex & Happiness
Also for the holidays, I am offering you fabulous deals on signed books. What do you get for that person who may or may not have everything, but who definitely could use more self love and likes sex and happiness?
Here’s my suggestion: Give Sex & Happiness: The Tantric Laws of Intimacy. Go to the store page and use the drop down menu to find out what you can order as unique gifts for those you love. Shipping for multiple copies is completely FREE.
Yay! Kindle: Knock Out Deal for Self Love and Sex and Happiness
For people wanting to dig in and develop their self love for a price that can’t be beat, this great news just in: Sex & Happiness: The Tantric Laws of Intimacy is now available for only $2.99 on Amazon Kindle. Wow, my latest dream come true! And your most economical stocking stuffer!
What a pleasure to define a few concepts I cover in my book Sex & Happiness: The Tantric Laws of Intimacy to give you and idea of what it covers and what you will learn about sex and happiness when you read it. It’s simple and easy to follow as if you were right there with me having a conversation. It’s a self-revealing book about my life and what I learned about myself and others from teaching the subject of Tantra. In this video clip I discuss the following ideas and laws of intimacy.
Sex & Happiness: Women Satisfy Yourselves!
Often women want their partners to read their minds and above all make them happy. They demand that their partners do this or that, get it just right! Really? In the book, I talk about getting it just right for yourself!
And by the way, men, if you are not self-loving, how can you expect to know how to be with a partner and give to them if you need so much sex & happiness?
Sex & Happiness: Make Love in the Unknown, the Tenth Law!
Find out how to make love to life, make love to a new partner (even if this is your same old partner) fresh in every moment in Sex & Happiness. You’ll read the tenth law first so that your experience can be framed by being new and fresh in every moment kind of like making love to life as a new fresh outlook. This will make a profound difference to your sex & happiness. As a matter of fact it will effect your whole way of being. And ultimately that’s really what I am most concerned with when I address you.
Sex & Happiness: Boundaries & Surrender
You’ll learn a lot about these two crucial behaviors. I don’t know about you, but I was never taught anything about boundaries by my parents. I have come to understand them as critical for my continued growth and development. And now that I can set boundaries, I am also able to surrender, relinquish the feverish need to control everything and everyone!
I invite you to consider expanding your sex & happiness by watching this short video and getting your copy of my book either in paperback or eBook (soon t be in Kindle).
Anger Management: Transforming Anger into Pleasure
I feel so grateful to be able to contribute more peace to the planet through my and your exercises in releasing anger and other powerful emotions. When contemplating Anger Management, you know, you and I have great resistance to actually releasing anger. I have found that we resist as a habitual way of being. This is the subject I dealt with in depth this week in part three of my latest teleseminar Transforming Anger into Pleasure. So, I created another three videos for your personal journey out of anger by releasing anger and resistance through specific techniques designed for this purpose. Of course if you follow these simple exercises you will get the side benefit of releasing trauma as well. Why not just do it?
Anger Management: Transforming Anger into Pleasure using Gibberish
The first of these new videos is a fun technique for working with powerful emotions especially transforming anger into pleasure. It’s based on Oshos’s Gibberish Exercise. It’s definitely one of the most fun ones and takes a very short time to shift your mood. Practicing Anger Management in this format over time can shift your whole being with little to no effort.
Anger Management: Transforming Anger into Pleasure using Dynamic
The second of these new videos is a somewhat more intense way of transforming anger into pleasure. It’s based on Osho’s Dynamic Meditation technique. It’s actually my modified version of Osho’s powerful too and works very well with Anger Management. It takes about thirty minutes and you will certainly notice a difference after doing this one. I feel you owe it to yourself.
Anger Management: Transforming Anger into Pleasure with Yogaboxing and Boundaries
The third of these new videos includes another Yogaboxing ™ exercise. It’s totally fun and quite powerful. It involves asserting boundaries and may be the first time in your life you ever would say anything like this out loud. I sincerely hope you enjoy these Anger Management techniques that could be life altering for you from the moment you give them a shot in your process of transforming anger into pleasure.
Anger Management: Transforming Anger into Pleasure
I have launched a teleseminar for four sessions in this the month of September that is designed to help people in transforming anger into pleasure using techniques from my practice of Tantra for anger management.
People deny that they are angry because socially and spiritually they are encouraged to suppress it. During the teleseminar I encourage people to be completely responsible for anger, to actually honor it and listen to the message it is telling them.
Anger Management: Transforming Anger into Pleasure: Emotional Release
Anger can be a great barrier to intimacy. Women and men need to practice emotional release on a regular basis in order to transform anger into pleasure. It is not at all difficult. It just takes a commitment to actually doing the practices. Anger is important in the process of transformation when honored and expressed in healthy straightforward ways.
Anger Management: Transforming Anger into Pleasure: 3 Easy to Use Tools
I have posted the following anger management videos to give you some idea of the practices for transforming anger into pleasure.
The first one contains Egyptian Balancing and Egyptian Cleansing Breaths. Quick, easy techniques that make anger management easy!
In the second one I demonstrate a powerful Bioenergetic Release technique for dissipating anger and other powerful emotions. Anger management going into the feeling rather than trying to control it!
In the third one I demonstrate transforming anger into pleasure through Yogaboxing, a powerful release technique for expressing anger and setting boundaries, critical in anger management. Bilateral brain stimulation frees the brain from past traumas without having to relive them!
It’s Physical
It will make a monumental difference in your life if you take and interest in this offering whether you join in on the rest of the teleseminar or not. You can view these short videos and find out more about how you can empower yourself by doing the practices that rid your body of the stock pile of anger or other deeply suppressed emotions from the past that lie just under the surface in many circumstances or deeper in others. The more you make anger management physical and do the practices like working out at the gym, the better you will feel thereby transforming anger into pleasure.
Men often ask me questions about their participation in Tantra Workshops. Tantra for men seems to be centered around men’s concerns. Their concerns are different from women’s co
ncerns.
Tantra for men centers around these things: whether or not they have a partner, whether or not they feel they already know how to make love, whether or not they think they can master ejaculation control.
Tantra for Men: Do I need a partner?
No you do not need a partner. It is a huge mistake to believe that Tantra cannot be practiced without a partner. This is false. Tantra is a set of practices and skills for expanding awareness. This starts with self. Therefore the notion of having to be with someone else to practice is ridiculous. After one has gained some adeptness at Tantric practice, having a partner makes it sweeter, but still is not mandatory.
Tantra for Men: What if I already know how to make love?
This question makes me laugh. So what if one already knows how to make love? Where did you learn? Who taught you? Chances are you learned from someone who did not have a clue. Besides, even if you feel you are a good and skilled lover, you know how to do it one particular way. Wouldn’t you care to expand your repertoire? In the Tantric paradigm, love making takes on whole new heights, experiences like the ones people have that are drug induced, feelings of merging with your partner, merging with the universe. Tantra for men is very different.
Tantra for Men: What if I cannot master ejaculation control?
Once you find out how easy this is, your doubts and fears will wash away. Any man can do this. It takes approximately twenty one days to learn and it is with you forever. Then you begin to have choice in what you want in the bedroom. What do you want? With Tantra for men, you can have standard boom boom sex or you can have long, slow, drawn out, all night long sacred sex. This is a full spectrum. What do you choose?
Tantra for Men: Summary
I have addressed the three main questions men ask me before embarking upon the study of Tantra. They are straightforward questions with straightforward answers. No partner is necessary. Knowing how to make love already is great and there is more! Trust me! Finally, ejaculation control is something you really want to learn. You will be glad you did and so will your partner! Oh yes, you will rejoice in your new skill! Tantra for men is a necessity.
Darren Starwynn, a man who attended my Ecstasy course this weekend went home and made this video, published it on Youtube the next day. Wow! You can see it by clicking this link Laurie Handlers Testimonial.
This week on Sex and Happiness I interview Sari Cooper, a New York based relationship and sex therapist, author of the Sex Esteem Blog.
Sari explains the profile of a cheater; aka Narcissist and then discusses how partners can deal with the occurrence of cheating.
Trust
Sari talks a lot about what to do, what actions can be taken to heal the trust between people after a betrayal takes place. Some of it is very surprising I must admit. For example, where I thought once a betrayal takes place, one might not want to have sex with their partner for awhile. Sari says they often have more sex as a result of the betrayal than they did before.
Is there Hope?
Sari offers much needed practical and helpful information on this topic and gives hope when many would think their hopes were crushed. There is a certain communication that must take place to heal the wounds and often with a third party, a person like Sari.
Cheating is a very important topic in this day and time with divorce rates skyrocketing. A must for anyone who thinks their partner is cheating!
Alternative Medicine Can Help Your Sex and Happiness
I interview Allen Harrison, a “Modern Day Healer” in Scottsdale, AZ whose background includes more than two decades of clinical chiropractic practice, in addition to 3 decades of vibrational, and energetic healing.
Breathing vs. Viagra
Our lively discussion touches on subjects like breathing and the importance of your diaphragm, taking little blue pills…duh! The need for balance and how to go about finding someone who can help you get in alignment.
Basically he says that people who take sex enhancement drugs for recreation may be very sorry later on when their own apparatus doesn’t work so well.
My Sex Magic Experience
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